Hello My Audience!! It’s been so long since I did not post something but anyway today I’m back and i’ll try to please you with my new post. Well today I’ll be talking about lies since nowadays we cannot know whether someone is who he or she is since each and everyone pretends to be what he or she is not.
Everyone lies. Whether we want it or not, we have all lied at least for once in our life. Be it a white lie or simply an omission, we all know how it feels and how to lie. What’s the big deal in lying? Well lying have several degrees ranging from white lies to pathological lying-mythomania.
We start lying when we become conscious being- that is at the age of 5 or six. We start to lie firstly to get out of trouble or to get something out of it. But the thing is at the beginning it is simply a way to satisfy our wants. But there exist some people who live to lie. They do not do it on purpose, it forms part of them, whatever they do will not be able to solve that problem. These people use lie to protect them, to be who they are not or to feel more confident.
Lying worsens with time. The more you get used to it, the more dependent you become. It is like a drug- you lie to live since yo do not distinguish reality from your constructed life-lies. This is so because when one who is used to lying is faced to reality, he/she is deceived with what he or she has and so have no other way out than to lie.
The thing is many people are not satisfy with who they are and find in lying a way to achieve what they have not yet achieved-dignity. Here again, we see that human being takes too much into account what others think of him/her and if he/she does not satisfy society’s criteria, many find in lies one way to get rid of labels and live according to what is thought to be right.
Liars are not bad people, well in most cases they are not. But there exist some pathological liars who find an inner satisfaction by continually lying to others. Nevertheless we cannot blame them. There might have been some reasons as to why there have ended up lying to others and above all lying to themselves.
One of the easiest reason to understand why some lie is for instance to protect themselves from self-deception. Moreover, we do lie to avoid conflict since we have a fear to deceive and deception forces us to lie. Thus by trying to protect us, we find no other way than to lie and to go beyond the reasonable lies-white lies.
When I was a teenager, I often omitted some truth to avoid punishment. Many youngsters do that since they fear their parents reaction to lets says there results or misconduct at school. What comes and goes in all my post is the fear of rejection.Previously I had mentioned that we as human beings we find the need to please others and we do so since we do not want to be rejected. The act of conformity has been absorbed by everyone and in order to conform one uses lies to do this since he/she thinks that he/she does not meet the requirements of the society. Moreover, this has led to the fact that many people pretend to be what they are not-they are actors acting according to what other people perception in order to be accepted.
Furthermore, we often lie to make ourselves more desirable to other people. There is this constant self-questioning process that arises each time we are faced to someone else. The lack of confidence in oneself is one of the main reason as to why we lie and more specifically there is that constant fear of loosing someone or something if we are who we are. So we change role and become someone else just to be accepted and not to loose the things that matter to us.
That’s all for Today.
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