Have a break, have some peace of mind !

Hey you all

It’s been such a long time since the sequencer blog has been inactive and I must apologise  for that. Well first of all this is the first time that I will be posting an article when I’m actually not in my country. In fact, I am in India. This incredible and huge place and I guess India is one of the main reason that has inspired me to post a new article today. Just for you to know, the article will not be about India

So to begin with, I would like to point out something that really matters to me. This special thing is peace of mind. Peace of mind is a state in which one can relax, take deep breaths and have a look upon one’s actions. According to me, when one is in need of peace it means that this person needs some time of his one to have  better look at life itself.

When I need some peace of my, I automatically enter a new stage : the mood swing stage. People might think that I am distant or that I am trying to hide things from them, but this is not the case. These mood swings can happen to each and everyone at any point in time, but different people deal with these mood swings differently. Mood swings re just some simple causes that your brain takes to make you think back on things you did either intentionally or unintentionally.

From what I have noticed, my mood swings are summarised by long moments of silence followed but an instant change in my attitude. Just like a simple headache, the mood swing is a temporary state of might. There might not be any specific reason that might cause these but there are some consequences when it comes to the misinterpretation of your peace of mind moment.

Anyways my dear audience, I’ll continue with my explanation tomorrow

I was happy to post this article today after so long,

See you,

Chelbee.bix

Is our deepest thought our Godmother?

A very big hello from Mauritius

What is a godmother? Well in catholic religion people are baptised and then they are given a godmother. I myself don’t have a godmother since i am not baptised but anyway, this is not what I’m debating on. The role of the godmother is to replace our mother if she happens to be in troubles or to always be here for her  godson when she will be needed.

In fairy tales, the godmother is always the only person that will bring happiness to a character by taking in charge all the wishes and difficulties of the latter. If we compare a godmother to a thought we will come to the conclusion that they are more or less the same thing. A thought, mostly a deep thought when it happens to realise  bring us so much happiness that we say “thank god it happened”. The thought is the key to our happiness, the thought is our godmother!.

I know that whatever I am saying is not scientifically proven, but it is what we as human being encounter when our thoughts do come true. Our need to get satisfaction to whatever we do tends to make us wish for the best every time. Notice it or not, when we are satisfied we are given a gift from our so-called godmother.

She might not be real nor physical, she might be imaginary and not logical but what she does is incredible. A thought changes one’s mood, one’s expectation and one’s ways of seeing things. This godmother is the key to our success. For human being to succeed therefore, I noticed that there should be a certain degree of trust and belief in whatever he or she thinks.

It is just like my friends Anne-Laure always say, “Create your vision and await your desires.” If we replace the word vision with the word thought, we come to a point where you can achieve what you want by simply thinking about it. The tendency that human being has to be constantly unsatisfied is one of the main causes as to why we will never think that we have is enough.

Our greed and need to consume will always lead us away from our godmother. I will end my post here for today hoping that you’ve understood and liked my post. I would like to thank Anne-Laure for her inspiration .

See you,

Chelbee Bix.

We are all like ice cubes, temporarily hard outside but slowly melting down.

Hello from Mauritius How have you all been? Today I’ll be talking about something that we all tend to ignore : The fragile us.The fragile us is simply us in tears in hard times and how many of us use OK as an excuse to hide the way they really feel about things.

Human beings in general are very good actors. In times when they are physically and mentally not well they pretend to be OK. That word OK is used by most people nowadays. I’ll take myself as an example. X:”How are you?” Me: “ok”. That is exactly what is happening to most of us these days. We are afraid to share our feelings with others. Our selfishness forces us to keep our “mal-être”  as a secret in order to make people believe that we are OK.

Likewise, Human being is like an ice-cube. In fact it is not physically like an ice-cube but it can be compared to one. How so? An ice-cube is always alone in its compartment, it is cold and after sometimes when it is left on its own it slowly melts down. Human is also like this, we are always cold to those who have some interest for us, we are always seeking to be alone even it hard times and deep inside when we are on our own, some feelings come out and we slowly melt down in tears.

It is funny to see that as good actors, it is hard for us to prevent ourselves from melting down. It is true that we convince ourselves not to but admit it or not you cannot not cry at the end of the day. We are one of the rarest animals to be both  mentally weak. We assume to be strong but we are not. We are affected by anything: death, birth, break-up, birthdays and so on. The thing is it is our emotions and our memory that help to melt us down.

If our brain was like a washing machine, we would not be that fragile. For instance we would have loaded enough information that at the end you would have to “brain wash” your information. By so doing, we would have had a fresh new brain each time you have had enough. But not, the complexity of our brain does not allow us to do so though there exist some people who maintain that they can forget whatever is not useful to them. Deep inside we all Know that we do not forget.

What I have learnt by being an ice-cube is to smile each time I want to cry or have cried. This is because I know I cannot do anything because I am fragile and it is life so “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”as Dr. Seuss.

If you see you need to cry, talk or share your feelings with those who mean the world to you I have only one thing to say :”Break the ice guys!”:)

hope you guys enjoyed the post,

See you,

Chelbee Bix.

Within each beauty lies a beast.

Hey everyone, I got a new post idea by watching beauty and the beast trailer yesterday. Yes I know i’m too old to watch this but I can’t help it Well, moreover I came across the many meanings of the word beauty during the pageant contest and I have to admit that I learned a lot from that life-time experience. So any idea of what beauty is really about??

First of all I have never had confident in myself and this is because I always hated the fact that I was black. I know that someone living in a multicultural country should not be saying so but I guess I am. Well being accepted in the pageant thing has helped to prove to myself that one needs not to be white to be beautiful. Finally I have admitted this. All this little history is to tell you guys how physical appearance is important when talking about beauty.

But behind the look there is the self. What about it? I have met 12 beautiful girls during the contest and each one of them was special – Beautiful. For me I did not judge them by there look. I tended to focus on the way the acted within the group. There is the beautiful social girl and there is the beautiful girl. The beautiful social one is the one who merges with everybody and is “real”in her way of being. The beast that lies within us is always playing hide and seek when the beauty is in society. But once in a while we found the beast and all of a sudden the beauty disappears.

We as spectators find it hard to admit the fact that the beauty- the person we are lets say talking to- happens to hide a beast in him/her. It has to be noted that the beast is not the beast, if you see what I mean. The beast is simply a side of us, lets say a flaw that society has taught us to hide from others in order to be accepted. But the “murdered self” at one point in time relives and bursts out.

The beast is the real us and the beauty is the fabricated us. So I guess that no one is beautiful to a certain extent because each one of us has something to hide and this hidden side of us sheds light to the way society has taught us to become the beautiful people we are.

My definition of beauty is somehow complex. It is ironical to see that physical beauty and the inner beauty are both photoshoped by the society. How so? In a beauty contest the beast-the pimples and stretch marks are hidden with make up and during our childhood we are taught to hide who we are and to replace it by what is said to be inner beauty.

hope you guys enjoyed the post,

See you,

Chelbee Bix

Do not let rust get on your trust :P

Hey everyone! i dedicate this new post to a new friend of mine who asked me to write about trust. Hope you will recognise you Well this new friend of mine and I met in a pageant contest in which I recently participated. In this very contest-Miss Mauritius – I have learnt that relationship can be built very easily but in a world full of rivalry what one thinks to be trust is nothing but a lure. What is trust at the end of the day then??

Is relying on someone called trust? or is trust present in every relationship be it friendship/family and love relationship? According to me, trust is the cornerstone of everything. How is this so? Well in sociology according to functionalist perspective in order for a society to function properly there needs to be a consensus – in other word trust. Hence we see that trust is at the basis of society and relationship itself. Being a social animal, human cannot live on its own and trust therefore helps him to face every difficult situation in life. This implies that relying on someone else is normal and natural when it comes  to human.

As I mentioned earlier, in my contest relationships have been created and in a very short lapse of time. I personally thought that it needed much more time and commitment to reach that point but I have to admit that I was wrong. Well not completely wrong as the relationships have been created because first of all, all the participants were stuck together and having no one else to talk to, we had to talk to each other . But the thing is this relationship was not based on full trust since that in order to have a trustworthy relationship some key points need to be respected.

It is then that we realise that  it is quite difficult to gain trust in a relationship. Building trust in relationships needs considerable effort, commitment and time. What one needs to take into consideration to gain a healthy relationship is to be predictable and consistent in all activities one performs. Trust is a very fragile concept in one’s life. It can be compared to the most expensive diamond - pure and priceless – and also envied by everybody. This means that everyone will do his best to steal the diamond from you and you have to take all the signs into considerations. The most easy way this can be done is by the use of words.

In fact a wrongly used word can cause harm to ones’s diamond and ruin all the effort one has put in building a relationship.Think thrice before saying something and before trusting the words others are using to destroy one’s relationship .

At the end of the day you realise that all those in whom you had trust were not worth your trust. Keep your precious diamond in a safe and give it to those who deserve it.

See you,

Chelbee Bix.

“Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.” Oscar Wilde

Hello my audience, it’s been such a long time since I haven’t posted anything. This is because my blog was being corrected by my lecturers and I could not post anything until the results were out. Good news, the Sequencer made me pass my unit. Anyways, today I’ll be talking about a thing everyone has done in his/her life. No one is perfect and due to that we commit mistake. does the mistake help us to improve something in our lives or is it just one thing that happens like this and we do not try to improve the situation? Many people assume they have committed a mistake but none of them stops and tries to define the word itself-it has to be noted that a mistake varies from situation to situation.

A mistake is an action or a decision that in the end makes us regret something. A mistake often causes pain or suffering to the one involved. It is funny to note that when we try to avoid a specific mistake we finally come to commit it. But it is ironical since mistakes help us to move in life be it positively or not. Without these experiences, would we be who we are now!

I have myself done many wrongs in my life, well they were experiences that many would call mistakes- which I would not, but these experiences though they were painful ones made me learn and grow. What comes out of a so-called mistake is necessary for our psychological and emotional growth.

As I mentioned earlier, I do not regret whatever I did in my life even though these experiences might have made me suffer a lot. I firmly believe that with time I will realise that if I had not gone through these, I would not be who I am now. This is actually what I want you people to realise. It is true that a mistake might impact on all aspects of your life be it your personal relations, your work etc. Let’s take an example, you might have lost a friendship in I don’t know what kind of situation but you have to firmly trust in your friendship and think that if this has happened it is for a good reason and maybe if it has not worked that way  it will work in another one. Doors will always be opened if you look well for them don’t let them close and leave you without any objective.

“Most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one’s mistakes.”Oscar Wilde

Everyone is afraid of making a mistake since we are all afraid of being judged. It is this fear that contributes to the repression of our real self as mentioned in my previous posts. This constant fear serves to promote conformity since we do not want to disappoint anyone by committing a mistake. We are left in a very difficult situation where we ask ourselves  the question “to please or not to please?”-the title of one of my previous post. What you have to consider is to look at your mistake not like a failure but like a plus that will help you to move forward in life. Don’t be like me, overcome what you did in the past and do not stick to what happened there. “See beyond the box, Dream”- the title of a previous post. So do not limit yourself to what you did but to what you have learnt and what you can do to improve your life.

Hope you enjoyed the post,

See you,

Chelbee Bix.

See beyond the box, DREAM !!

Hello my favourite audience, well it’s been such a long time since I haven’t posted but as I told you in my previous post I am still overloaded with university work. Big thanks to you because my views have exceeded one thousand. So today to thank you all I’ll post something that I hope everyone around the world will like. Have you ever taken some time to think about your dreams. Not about the meaning of your dreams or looking for explanations in books. What I want to say here is that the dream we do, isn’t it an inner desire or fantasy that cannot be accomplished in your real life of that you want to accomplish?. So let me make you dream.

In fact, the innocent dream we have is in a way what our unconscious self wants us to think about. The unconscious self is like I told you before, in my earlier post. It is our repressed self, that comes into action at night and is free to express whatever emotions to us and this is done through dream. But as usual, the normal us comes also into play, it kind of filters whatever the unconscious self wants us to do and by doing so we conform to what is good in society. We forget that fantasy touch that we have in our dream and become simply rational human being.

While growing up we forget the child that we were once and it is in dreaming that it tries to come back through lets say your own creativity. While dreaming, you reproduce the happy and adventurous world you want to live in and unconsciously reflect who you really are. What I want to tell you guys today is that by expressing your dreams, you can in a way bring them to reality. Forget who you have to be and simply be who you are. Be you, forget the fact that you have to repress yourself to please others, stop being an actor and shift role constantly, simply be who you are when you are unconsciously aware-dreaming.

By dreaming you become the one you deserve to be. Dreaming has nothing harmful associated with it nor has it any symbolical aspects-according to me. It is the most natural thing that human does. Lets take an example, even a baby dreams in his/her sleep. This is unbelievable but it is true. I observed this on my little cousin who smiles constantly in his dream. Moreover, dogs too dream. Yes they do, my does moves his legs in its sleep. If innocent people and animals dream, so why do we have to prevent our self from dreaming.

Well by preventing ourselves to dream I simply mean that we refuse to live up according to our dreams. As Martin Luther King once said,” I have a dream” and so do I. I have a dream that my audience will try to be who they are by letting their unconscious self  guide them on some occasions so as to fully live their lives.

Hope you enjoyed the post,

See you,

Chelbee Bix.

Do we lie or do we simply omit the truth?

Hello My Audience!! It’s been so long since I did not post something but anyway today I’m back and i’ll try to please you with my new post. Well today I’ll be talking about lies since nowadays we cannot know whether someone is who he or she is since each and everyone pretends to be what he or she is not.

Everyone lies. Whether we want it or not, we have all lied at least for once in our life. Be it a white lie or simply an omission, we all know how it feels and how to lie. What’s the big deal in lying? Well lying have several degrees ranging from white lies to pathological lying-mythomania.

We start lying when we become conscious being- that is at the age of 5 or six. We start to lie firstly to get out of trouble or to get something out of it. But the thing is at the beginning it is simply a way to satisfy our wants. But there exist some people who live to lie. They do not do it on purpose, it forms part of them, whatever they do will not be able to solve that problem. These people use lie to protect them, to be who they are not or to feel more confident.

Lying worsens with time. The more you get used to it, the more dependent you become. It is like a drug- you lie to live since yo do not distinguish reality from your constructed life-lies. This is so because when one who is used to lying is faced to reality, he/she is deceived with what he or she has and so have no other way out than to lie.

The thing is many people are not satisfy with who they are and find in lying a way to achieve what they have not yet achieved-dignity. Here again, we see that human being takes too much into account what others think of him/her and if he/she does not satisfy society’s criteria, many find in lies one way to get rid of labels and live according to what is thought to be right.

Liars are not bad people, well in most cases they are not. But there exist some pathological liars who find an inner satisfaction by continually lying to others. Nevertheless we cannot blame them. There might have been some reasons as to why there have ended up lying to others and above all lying to themselves.

One of the easiest reason to understand why some lie is for instance to protect themselves from self-deception. Moreover, we do lie to avoid conflict since we have a fear to deceive and deception forces us to lie. Thus by trying to protect us, we find no other way than to lie and to go beyond the reasonable lies-white lies.

When I was a teenager, I often omitted some truth to avoid punishment. Many youngsters do that since they fear their parents reaction to lets says there results or misconduct at school. What comes and goes in all my post is the fear of rejection.Previously I had mentioned that we as human beings we find the need to please others and we do so since we do not want to be rejected. The act of conformity has been absorbed by everyone and in order to conform one uses lies to do this since he/she thinks that he/she does not meet the requirements of the society. Moreover, this has led to the fact that many people pretend to be what they are not-they are actors acting according to what other people perception in order to be accepted.

Furthermore, we often lie to make ourselves more desirable to other people. There is this constant self-questioning process that arises each time we are faced to someone else. The lack of confidence in oneself is one of the main reason as to why we lie and more specifically there is that constant fear of loosing someone or something if we are who we are. So we change role and become someone else just to be accepted and not to loose the things that matter to us.

That’s all for Today.

Hoping that you guys liked the post.

See you,

Chelbee Bix

What’s in a name?

Hello my favourite audience. It’s been a week since i haven’t posted anything. I know I have disappointed a lot by not doing so but the thing is I was overloaded with assignments and had to do them or else I would have failed. Well, how was your week anyway? I hope that the new post will help you to forgive me for my non-posting moment So enjoy the post

Well I was sleeping the day before yesterday, it was about 10.30 p.m when I thought about my name- I mean I thought about what was behind a name. Well as I told you guys in my first post, my real name is Rachel. May be for some of you it is a beautiful name or may be not. But what is there with my name that has had an influence on me for me to write a post about it?. My name in Hebrew means ewe but this is not what I want to talk about. Names have various meaning various connotations and denotations depending on many factors such as culture, country etc.

Human being has always attributed names to everything to be able to distinguish lets say object A from object B. Right? But why do we need to name everything and everyone. Can’t we just say “pss” or “uh huh”?. According to what is socially acceptable by our modern society these appellations are not appropriate. Language is one of the thing that distinguishes human being from the animal kingdom and this is why, human has this tendency of using language in order to call its alike. The ability to use language instead of sounds like animal do has arisen the ability of human to reason on a conscious level. All this little history was to tell you that without language, there would be no name.

So what’s in a name? If you guys have read Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet you would have come across this quote. Well the first level of understanding what’s in a name will be just like Shakespeare wants us to see how names can be at the basis of conflicts. This implies that name given to an object or to someone is simply a matter of convention. For example if you are rich, you have a super aristocratic name, so this means you are not on the same “name” level as a working class man. In other words, your name will allow you to have more prestige than the working class man.

There has always been something that I have not understood till now when it comes to names. Is this true that all Rachels have the same character. Can we group people emotionally and psychologically by the names they have? The answer is no. There is no such thing, may be there is but it is only by coincidence that lets say two Rachels have the same character.

But in my opinion, human likes to possess things and by naming them they automatically become his. Moreover, names such as language is socially constructed. Naming something or someone depends on one’s point of view and it has nothing to do with external factors such as stars, moon etc. A name is also a way to distinguish who is “the man” and who is the ” working man”. Names are simply another way of disguising power to certain extent.

Hoping that you guys like the post.

See you,

Chelbee Bix.

“To please or not to please? “That is the question

Hello everyone..How are you guys today? Well today it was very difficult for me to choose a topic to talk about. I have had so many suggestions from you people who I felt like I would disappoint some of you if I don’t choose your advised topic. At the end I chose a topic like that and I hope you’ll like it. The question that came to my mind was” why do we need the approval of others to make the right judgement?”. As I have mentioned in my other post, we as human being always want to please others at the expense of ourselves. Is it because we lack confidence in us or simply because we are nothing on our own and this is why we do whatever we can to please whoever wants to be pleased or even praised.

The thing is if we start to live by the wishes and wants of others it is useless to call “our life” our life since by doing so we are lowering our confidence and this implies that we are incapable of making our own decision. But still why do we do it if we know it is not fair? Are we that stupid? Aren’t we supposed to be the most intelligent animals on earth or is this simply a myth?

It is so because being babies, we had no instincts, we were reared in groups and learned that in order for the group to survive there needs to be a certain degree of consensus. In order to achieve this, we have  learnt to adopt an attitude where we are happy regardless of what is happening to us. This simply means that we learned that feeling important and accepted was necessary for this consensus to take place so while we grew up we continued this process and finally we ended up pleasing whoever we could.

So what’s the deal in pleasing everyone? inner satisfaction? It is really weird for me to talk about such a topic since I always do my best to please everyone. So I guess I won’t be able to give you tips about how to stop pleasing others but I’ll only give you the reason as to why we tend to please others.

Sometimes, it is the fear of disappointing someone else that make us do whatever we can not to disappoint the person. But is whatever we are doing fair enough? Don’t we have bigger fear that disappointing someone? What you should do, I always ask myself to do this but it’s hard, stop putting yourself in others shoes. Think about you and then if you have some time think about others.  You should also remove the word yes from your vocabulary..no more Yes!

It is not because we are naturally  social animals that we need to take care of others. So live your own life. This post is very different from what I used to write, but I wanted to change a bit today. But as from today, things will get back to normal.:P

See you,

Chelbee Bix